Inhibited Orgasm (Orgasmic Dysfunction)

Orgasmic dysfunction is an inability to reach an orgasm. The condition is referred to as primary when the person has never experienced orgasm through any means of stimulation. The problem is called secondary if the person has attained orgasm in the past but currently cannot reach climax.

Anxiety about performance is believed to be the most common cause of orgasm problems, and 90% or more of orgasm problems appear to be psychological in nature. It is therefore helpful to seek advice from a qualified sex therapist, who can help you to understand the reasons for non orgasm. Some drugs may sedate and impair orgasmic responsiveness, including alcohol and are a very common cause of lack of orgasm, delayed orgasm, or unsatisfying orgasm in both women and men.

Very occasionally medical conditions that affect the nerve supply to the pelvis, hormonal disorders, and chronic illnesses that affect general sexual interest and health may be factors.

If a person used to reach orgasm regularly but is not doing so currently, the problem may be related to relationship. Boredom and monotony in sexual activity may also contribute to the problem. Often, people are too shy or too embarrassed to ask for the kind of stimulation (and the timing of stimulation) that works best for them. This embarrassment can lead to dysfunction.

TREATMENT

As a qualified counsillor I can discuss with both of youth edifficulties you experience and help you to understand the underlying causes that may contribute to a lack of orgasm. Success rates when orgasmic dysfunction is treated by specialists in sex therapy are usually very high, even for primary orgasmic dysfunction. here are some considerations that can be made:

Education about sexual stimulation and response, and healthy attitudes toward sex tend to minimize problems. The principle of taking responsibility for one's own sexual pleasure is vitally important. Couples who realize that they must verbally and nonverbally guide each other in providing the stimulation that feels best will undoubtedly experience the problem less frequently. It is also important to realise that the harder a person focuses on willing an orgasm to happen, the more elusive the achievement of orgasm may become.

Many women require clitoral stimulation to reach an orgasm. Incorporating this into sexual activity may be all that is necessary. If orgasm difficulties persist, individual teaching of masturbation when the partner is not present may help the woman understand what she requires for excitation. Inhibited orgasm in males is usually caused by a psychological disorder such as depression or anxiety, or use of substances like alcohol or drugs. The man's emotional state and feelings such as guilt, boredom or resentment also may play a role. Excercises done together that minimize performance anxiety and pressure, and maximize communication and playfulness gradually make it possible for the person to achieve orgasm with the partner.

In secondary dysfunction, relationship difficulties sometimes play a role, and thus treatment may also sometimes need to include communication training and relationship enhancement therapy.

When enjoyment does not accompany sex, it can become a chore rather than a mutually satisfying, playful, and intimate experience. When lack of climax persists, sexual desire usually declines, sexual frequency wanes, and this may create resentments and conflicts in the relationship.

It is therefore important to seek professional help to improve your sexual pleasure together.